Nothing Ever Goes Away

When was the last time you read something that you just had to sit back and ponder from all angles? When a friend of mine, Lorrie, shared this image on Facebook from I could only continue to stare wondrously at the image, considering how deeply interesting these thoughts were. As I let thoughts of the not-so-good things, thoughts, feelings, and events flood my mind, I could see how it all made sense. 

Knowing this Pema Chodron was definitely on to something, I checked her out.  🙂

…Maybe the only enemy is that we don’t like the way reality is now and therefore wish it would go away fast. But what we find as practitioners is that nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. If we run a hundred miles an hour to the other end of the continent in order to get away from the obstacle, we find the very same problem waiting for us when we arrive. It just keeps returning with new names, forms, manifestations until we learn whatever it has to teach us about where we are separating ourselves from reality, how we are pulling back instead of opening up, closing down instead of allowing ourselves to experience fully whatever we encounter, without hesitating or retreating into ourselves.

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron
Looks like I have another resource to add to my reading list!
I heard my mom tell someone years ago that they should get out of town and be around new people to get rid of their problem. But even as a young girl I knew that didn’t sound quite right or that running from your problems, or in this case moving, isn’t always the answer.
Needless to say, years later, that individual found himself in the EXACT, and I mean EXACT, same situation he was in back at home after moving hundreds of miles away!
Why? Because he didn’t deal with the actual issue. He didn’t learn his lesson here at home so it repeated itself. Now he’s back home and will tell anybody who’ll listen that running from your past or just running to get rid of your present adverse issues won’t help you.
This and many other stories just goes to show that:
1) Everything really does happen for a reason (though we don’t always like it and sometimes act like spoiled children because of it),
2) Instead of going into avoidance or denial mode, it may prove more useful to go into reflection mode, and
3) If you don’t learn life’s lessons, they will most definitely repeat!

Nothing Ever Goes Away Until…

…it teaches us what we need to know!
The experiences in our lives, whether deemed positive or negative, help us to become better people. They are opportunities for us to learn and grow. Some people will say that for every adversity, hardship, or problem that we face in our lives, there is something greater to be learned, often becoming a lesson in humility.

My Challenge to You

So the next time you find yourself in recurring patterns that don’t work for you and are causing strife in your life (sickness, negative relationships, pain, despair, or any other non-loving, non-happy situations), ask yourself this one question:

What can I learn from this situation RIGHT NOW?

I encourage you to go into reflection mode every now and then and analyze any repeating patterns you may find in your life. I have challenged myself to do this more often too and am finding that I’m awakening (spiritually) a lot faster, being more grateful, doing things more easily, loving more unconditionally, not letting outside influences dictate my mood, and so on and so forth.

I want this for YOU as well!

Now this doesn’t mean that problems will never arise again or that you won’t find yourself in a different type of recurring, defeating patterns but at least the next time it happens, you’ll be better equipped to deal.

What say you? Weigh in family!

Let this moment be your teacher. -Thich Nhat Hanh


Kesha Brown
Kesha Brown

Kesha Brown is a Rebel Business Coach, Digital Strategist and Head Chick at The Uncommon Chick. Listen to my podcast - change your world.