As an enterprising mom, how do you overcome disruptions in your life? Disruptions like a sick child at home; a loss of income; a death in the family; separation or divorce? Neither scenario is easy to overcome but with time they do become easier to manage.
For the past 8 years, I feel like I’ve become the Queen of Managing Disruptions.
My son’s health and special needs have always caused me to have an irregular schedule – it’s one of the reasons why I’ve never returned to a Corporate job.
Every time I’d start looking into it, something would always come up to remind me that it wasn’t feasible for our life.
I came to the conclusion that reporting to an office would leave me more stressed and frustrated in the long run.
So, I had to learn how to deal and adapt to disruptions from a health crisis, emergency, and unscheduled appointments.
If I had to sum things up quickly, “dealing” takes a re-organization of your mindset and an adoption of some specific habits.
I talk about my personal experience along with some real-world tips in the video below:
Here are some of the main points that I discuss in the video.
Say “No” more often
Get comfortable saying “no” more often to people and opportunities.
You will shock some people but sometimes you have to stand on your own.
Like Brené Brown states in her book Braving the Wilderness, it will feel a lot like being in the wilderness.
New opportunities will come – maybe even bigger one.
The universe will re-deliver. You just have to trust and let go.
Give. Yourself. Grace.
Disruptions always happen.
I’ll admit that I wasn’t always good at following this advice. Luckily I was working closely with a stellar coach who stayed on top of my mindset.
The One Thing
When a disruption arises, the best advise I can give you is to focus on one thing for the day.
This is my approach all day, every day.
Being a caregiver for a child with both autism and leukemia, I had to learn this the hard way whenever I came up against productivity walls when a crisis would arise.
You have to save that To Do list for later and just do the most important thing which will make you feel accomplished.
I’ve always had this saying that I go by: “I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.”
Basically, it means that I put things in compartments to avoid overwhelm.
In other words, part of my system for managing disruptions is to take one step at a time.
And I take the small easy steps first.
By taking one step after the other, I’m done with things before I know it.
Here’s the Takeaway
Know that things will work out in the end. Understand the disruption is just a blip in time.
Managing disruptions becomes easier when you humble yourself to realize that the world will not crumble if your hand isn’t in it.
Go with the flow of the disruption instead of trying to fight against it.
If you don’t, it feels like you’re swimming upstream.
Otherwise, you will feel exhausted and miserable. It could lead to resentment and depression.
After the disruption is over, take time out for yourself. Do whatever you want but most importantly, just breathe.
Then, try to pick up where you left off as best as you can.
You may be surprised to learn that whatever it was that you were doing before isn’t a priority for you anymore.
Sometimes disruption is a gift in disguise.
Your outlook on how the universe functions often ends up being the key to you managing disruptions like a Pro.
This was originally published on Tawanna B. Smith.