Today we welcome Kelly, a total Mom like WHOA!.
How old were you when you became a mom?
I became a mom at 36 after 15 years of marriage. My husband and I traveled extensively working for the airlines and once we both quite and settled into Winston Salem my husband working with his brother selling airplanes. It wasn’t even 6 months before I became pregnant after 10 years of no birth control. Perhaps there is “something” in the Winston Salem, NC water.
Who makes you a mom?
I have two boys, Wolfgang (17 years) and Maximum (14 years.) Maximum is named Maximum to answer any question of “Are you gonna have any more kids?” Wolfgang hits 18 years soon and I’m grappling with what rights I lose, it’s a little unsettling. I’m also “mom” to all their friends. I frequently head downstairs counting heads before making breakfast.
What has been your fav age thus far?
I really enjoyed my thirties, traveling the first half of them, then taking care of kids the second half. It is true that in the trenches of bringing up boys it is hard, but you do look back on those days fondly once past them.
Who did you think would be harder – boys or girls?
Ha! I think girls. Boys you spend all your time trying to keep them alive. I don’t think I could handle the drama with girls. I once had a girl visiting and she told me she couldn’t wear a snowsuit because it had a hole in it. I looked all over and asked, “Where?” She pointed to a teeny tiny hole, then was horrified when I suggested covering it with duct tape.
Ever looked back and regretted the stress you caused your own mom?
Yes, I was not the perfect child but Mom always supported me. I cringe over some of the things I said as a teenager.
Would you say you chose to parent the same as your mom, or differently – and why?
I parent differently than my mother, I lose my temper but am not as big on corporal punishment as she was. Maybe it’s because my boys have short hair so there’s nothing to grab when they’re being bad? My mother was strict, I feel a little more lenient. I have often said that I’m not very good at the “helicopter mom” thing.
What is your biggest fear/hope for your kids?
I have one child with several near death experiences so I’ve had to face that one. All I can do when I look back on those experiences is shudder then turn my mind to joy that he is here! I hope both of my boys find careers that they love, stay as outdoors driven as they are now and are happy. It’s the simple things, right?
Want to share parenting high, a parenting low, or both? Or a fav mom moment?
My boys are now sharing many of my parenting lows and laughing about it. “Remember that time you made me eat the bagel off the floor and the dog had peed on it?” “Remember the time you lost part of your bathing suit on the water ride?” I look at these as memory makers, parenting highs and lows, because they are still talking about it. I am all about making memories with them, I love doing some type of impromptu adventure and listening to them telling their friends about it!
How do you take time for you?
Absolutely, I don’t think you can be a good person/Mom without time for yourself. I live in the mountains of North Carolina so I’m hiking at least an hour a day. I’ve become a certified Yoga Instructor and find that yoga grounds me. I always tell my students, “Give yourself this gift of one hour, you deserve it!”
Other than your kids – what are you most proud of?
I am proud of my career as a writer. I have two books out, Views from 5506 A Vacation Survival Guide for Beech Mountain and a collection of short stories set in a fictional retirement home. Tales From the Silver Side – Stories from the Reedy Fork Retirement Home. I write humor, I always the first to laugh and it’s usually at myself!